Fathers are Vital
The following information is from the website www.childrensjustice.org
Effects of Fatherlessness (US Data)
1) BEHAVIORAL DISORDERS/ RUNAWAYS/ HIGH SCHOOL DROPOUTS/CHEMICAL ABUSERS/ SUICIDES
85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Source: Center for Disease Control)
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools.)
75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Source: Rainbows for all God's Children.)
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
2) JUVENILE DELINQUENCY/ CRIME/ GANGS
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978)
70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)
California has the nation's highest juvenile incarceration rate and the nation's highest juvenile unemployment rate. Vincent Schiraldi, Executive Director, Center on Juvenile and Criminal Justice, "What Hallinan's Victory Means," San Francisco Chronicle (12/28/95).
These statistics translate to mean that children from a fatherless home are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide.
32 times more likely to run away.
20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders.
14 times more likely to commit rape
9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution.
20 times more likely to end up in prison.
Juveniles have become the driving force behind the nation's alarming increases in violent crime, with juvenile arrests for murder, rape, robbery and aggravated assault growing sharply in the past decade as pistols and drugs became more available, and expected to continue at the same alarming rate during the next decade. "Justice Dept. Issues Scary Report on Juvenile Crime," San Francisco Chronicle (9/8/95). "Crime Wave Forecast With Teenager Boom," San Francisco Chronicle (2/15/95).
Criminal behavior experts and social scientists are finding intriguing evidence that the epidemic of youth violence and gangs is related to the breakdown of the two-parent family. "New Evidence That Quayle Was Right: Young Offenders Tell What Went Wrong at Home," San Francisco Chronicle (12/9/94).
3) TEENAGE PREGNANCY
"Daughters of single parents are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a premarital birth, and 92% more likely to dissolve their own marriages. All these intergenerational consequences of single motherhood increase the likelihood of chronic welfare dependency." Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, Atlantic Monthly (April 1993).
Daughters of single parents are 2.1 times more likely to have children during their teenage years than are daughters from intact families. The Good Family Man, David Blankenhorn.
71% of teenage pregnancies are to children of single parents. U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services.
4) CHILD ABUSE
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services states that there were more than 1,000,000 documented child abuse cases in 1990. In 1983, it found that 60% of perpetrators were women with sole custody. Shared parenting can significantly reduce the stress associated with sole custody, and reduce the isolation of children in abusive situations by allowing both parents' to monitor the children's health and welfare and to protect them.
5) POVERTY
"The National Fatherhood Institute reports that 18 million children live in single-parent homes. Nearly 75% of American children living in single-parent families will experience poverty before they turn 11. Only 20% in two-parent families will experience poverty." Melinda Sacks, "Fatherhood in the 90's: Kids of absent fathers more "at risk"," San Jose Mercury News (10/29/95).
"The feminization of poverty is linked to the feminization of custody, as well as linked to lower earnings for women. Greater opportunity for education and jobs through shared parenting can help break the cycle." David Levy, Ed., The Best Parent is Both Parents (1993).
While this comes as absolutely no surprise to me, it is certainly shocking information to the legions of people who want to believe that single parent families typically healthy, fathers are not a necessity, and women are capable of being both mother and father o their children.
While am still of the opinion that father is easier to replace than a mother, I have always believed that a man is an essential part of the family unit. The fact is that children need fathers for numerous reasons. Boys need to learn how to treat women from how their fathers treat their mothers. Girls need to learn how a man who loves them will treat them from how their fathers treat them. Children learn respect from fathers and love from mothers. The total list with explanation could fill a book, and is actually the subject of several books.
Fathers excel at discipline, protection, and provision. Mothers excel at loving, nurturing, and teaching. While both can teach what the other teaches, neither can do it as well the gender that is hard-wired by God and nature to do it by nature. Both roles are absolutely vital. While these roles differ, to claim that one is more important than the other is folly, and to claim that women can fill the male role and that men can fill the female role equally is a demonstrable fallacy.
This entire situation is a potent argument in favor of traditional families, and against all of the following:
Divorce
Abandonment
Fornication
Adultery
Homosexual marriage
Homosexual adoption
Single parent adoption
Artificial insemination for singles
Anything else that results in children being raised by single gender parent households
Naturally, I am, and always have been opposed to everything on this list. I support traditional families and traditional family values. I think men who make babies and run away are scum. I think men who abandon their families are scum. I think that all children are so precious that they deserve both a mommy and a daddy and anything that robs them of this should be fought.
Men, stay with your families. Do not make babies out of wedlock, and if you do get a woman pregnant you must do the honorable thing and marry that lady, treat her in the most loving way imaginable, and raise that baby. Do not abandon your families. Do not seek divorce unless your wife is an adulteress. Men, we hold the cure to many of society’s ills. We must all stand for families, stand for children, and raise up a generation of men and women who are better adjusted and healthier than many of us had the opportunity to become. We can stop the destruction of civilization just by being loving, dutiful, and faithful husbands and fathers. Now do your part.
Effects of Fatherlessness (US Data)
1) BEHAVIORAL DISORDERS/ RUNAWAYS/ HIGH SCHOOL DROPOUTS/CHEMICAL ABUSERS/ SUICIDES
85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Source: Center for Disease Control)
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools.)
75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Source: Rainbows for all God's Children.)
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
2) JUVENILE DELINQUENCY/ CRIME/ GANGS
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978)
70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)
California has the nation's highest juvenile incarceration rate and the nation's highest juvenile unemployment rate. Vincent Schiraldi, Executive Director, Center on Juvenile and Criminal Justice, "What Hallinan's Victory Means," San Francisco Chronicle (12/28/95).
These statistics translate to mean that children from a fatherless home are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide.
32 times more likely to run away.
20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders.
14 times more likely to commit rape
9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution.
20 times more likely to end up in prison.
Juveniles have become the driving force behind the nation's alarming increases in violent crime, with juvenile arrests for murder, rape, robbery and aggravated assault growing sharply in the past decade as pistols and drugs became more available, and expected to continue at the same alarming rate during the next decade. "Justice Dept. Issues Scary Report on Juvenile Crime," San Francisco Chronicle (9/8/95). "Crime Wave Forecast With Teenager Boom," San Francisco Chronicle (2/15/95).
Criminal behavior experts and social scientists are finding intriguing evidence that the epidemic of youth violence and gangs is related to the breakdown of the two-parent family. "New Evidence That Quayle Was Right: Young Offenders Tell What Went Wrong at Home," San Francisco Chronicle (12/9/94).
3) TEENAGE PREGNANCY
"Daughters of single parents are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a premarital birth, and 92% more likely to dissolve their own marriages. All these intergenerational consequences of single motherhood increase the likelihood of chronic welfare dependency." Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, Atlantic Monthly (April 1993).
Daughters of single parents are 2.1 times more likely to have children during their teenage years than are daughters from intact families. The Good Family Man, David Blankenhorn.
71% of teenage pregnancies are to children of single parents. U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services.
4) CHILD ABUSE
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services states that there were more than 1,000,000 documented child abuse cases in 1990. In 1983, it found that 60% of perpetrators were women with sole custody. Shared parenting can significantly reduce the stress associated with sole custody, and reduce the isolation of children in abusive situations by allowing both parents' to monitor the children's health and welfare and to protect them.
5) POVERTY
"The National Fatherhood Institute reports that 18 million children live in single-parent homes. Nearly 75% of American children living in single-parent families will experience poverty before they turn 11. Only 20% in two-parent families will experience poverty." Melinda Sacks, "Fatherhood in the 90's: Kids of absent fathers more "at risk"," San Jose Mercury News (10/29/95).
"The feminization of poverty is linked to the feminization of custody, as well as linked to lower earnings for women. Greater opportunity for education and jobs through shared parenting can help break the cycle." David Levy, Ed., The Best Parent is Both Parents (1993).
While this comes as absolutely no surprise to me, it is certainly shocking information to the legions of people who want to believe that single parent families typically healthy, fathers are not a necessity, and women are capable of being both mother and father o their children.
While am still of the opinion that father is easier to replace than a mother, I have always believed that a man is an essential part of the family unit. The fact is that children need fathers for numerous reasons. Boys need to learn how to treat women from how their fathers treat their mothers. Girls need to learn how a man who loves them will treat them from how their fathers treat them. Children learn respect from fathers and love from mothers. The total list with explanation could fill a book, and is actually the subject of several books.
Fathers excel at discipline, protection, and provision. Mothers excel at loving, nurturing, and teaching. While both can teach what the other teaches, neither can do it as well the gender that is hard-wired by God and nature to do it by nature. Both roles are absolutely vital. While these roles differ, to claim that one is more important than the other is folly, and to claim that women can fill the male role and that men can fill the female role equally is a demonstrable fallacy.
This entire situation is a potent argument in favor of traditional families, and against all of the following:
Divorce
Abandonment
Fornication
Adultery
Homosexual marriage
Homosexual adoption
Single parent adoption
Artificial insemination for singles
Anything else that results in children being raised by single gender parent households
Naturally, I am, and always have been opposed to everything on this list. I support traditional families and traditional family values. I think men who make babies and run away are scum. I think men who abandon their families are scum. I think that all children are so precious that they deserve both a mommy and a daddy and anything that robs them of this should be fought.
Men, stay with your families. Do not make babies out of wedlock, and if you do get a woman pregnant you must do the honorable thing and marry that lady, treat her in the most loving way imaginable, and raise that baby. Do not abandon your families. Do not seek divorce unless your wife is an adulteress. Men, we hold the cure to many of society’s ills. We must all stand for families, stand for children, and raise up a generation of men and women who are better adjusted and healthier than many of us had the opportunity to become. We can stop the destruction of civilization just by being loving, dutiful, and faithful husbands and fathers. Now do your part.
posted by Daniel Levesque at
3:01 PM
10 Comments:
I wonder what proportion of "fatherless families" only became fatherless after the father proved his unworthiness to carry that title.
Would it be safe to say a vast majority? Or just a simple majority?
And how often do you suppose the child was on the receiving end of that proof?
Also -- does "sending daddy to prison" fall under the "anything else" heading in the list of things these stats argue against to you?
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catastrophile, at 11:05 PM
Catastrophile,
"I wonder what proportion of "fatherless families" only became fatherless after the father proved his unworthiness to carry that title"
Prior to the 70's I would have said the majority, but now that 37% of all children are born to single mothers, not to mention the prevalence of divorce for reasons that have nothing to do with parenting, I cannot say that now. In fact, if 30% of all children are growing up without a father then there must be men stepping up to the plate rather admirably to knock that down from the 37% that are actually born out of wedlock.
"Also -- does "sending daddy to prison" fall under the "anything else" heading in the list of things these stats argue against to you?"
This may surprise you, but I am a HUGE advocate of alternative punishments. I see no reason to send a man to jail for a minor crime when a good beating will suffice, and act as more of a deterrent as well. I amalso convinced that by executing the worst criminals we can cut doen on the number of people who become such criminals in the first place.
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Daniel Levesque, at 11:23 PM
I nearly fainted when I read something you had written that made sense: "I think men who make babies and run away are scum. I think men who abandon their families are scum." Surely I cannot be agreeing with you, can I?
But then you did your usual gay bashing and lost me.
Of course men who abandon their families are scum. I just don't like how the women who then hold the family together are villified by certain types of people. It's hard enough for the families without the added 'mum and dad is the only way' crowd chipping in.
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DanProject76, at 12:44 AM
DP76: Are you saying that people who believe that having a two-parent family is the best environment for raising kids are the "certain types of people" who "vilify" single moms? I would certainly appreciate it if you could substantiate that, as that statement sounds a whole lot more like a personal bias than it does a fact. Can a person not simultaneously show compassion to single-parent families *and* believe that a two-parent family is best for a child?
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Anonymous, at 4:28 AM
Hi Robert. I simply meant that parts of the media like to blame single mothers for the ills of the nation. There is nothing wrong in believing that a nuclear family is the best environment to raise children. It worked alright for me. I just have an open mind when it comes to the other options.
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DanProject76, at 5:40 AM
Good post, Daniel! I personally know of two 17-year-old girls who's boyfriends took a powder as soon as the girls learned they were pregnant; and this is a small town! Fortunately the girls didn't run to an abortionist, and their families are supportive. Shame on the boys who run out on their own children. I don't care how old they are either; they are "boys"! Real men don't act like that.
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Gayle, at 7:52 AM
I cannot believe some of the narrow-minded tripe I have read. There are wonderful single-parent families and there are some horrendous two-parent families. I should know. My sibs and I grew up in a horrendous two-parent family in a wonderful rural setting. I am now a parent in a two-parent family. We seem like the ideal. We love, we love God and our neighbor. We both work and have a small home w/a lot of property for children to run and play. Many of our children's friends spent many hours here. Especially in the summers when I was off from teaching and/or going to school. Yet my beautiful daughter fell prey to a sick,twisted manipulative guy. She is now a drug addict. Drug addiction knows no boundries of social class, belief system or family type. A year ago I never would've dreamed this would happen to my beautiful, talented, hardworking daughter. She even had rave reviews from employers and teachers, not just me. However,here I am now-she is addicted to pot and crack and my husband and I pray for her safety and return to God and us...it can happen to any two-parent family.
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Anonymous, at 2:15 PM
Oh and by the way; there are many single-parent moms and Dads that did not CHOOSE to become single! They and the children were abandoned by the other partner and are left to raise the children alone! These good,hardworking people would not have chosen to become single-parents. However,they have the*&%#@ to step up to the plate and be an adult. They take their children to school,soccer,YMCA,counseling and teach Sunday school-ALL ON THEIR OWN!! These people deserve Kudos, prayeres and respect!! Not every single-parent family is the excrement of Society you would make it out to be!!!! Put on your Big Girl Pants and realize life happens!!!
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Anonymous, at 2:25 PM
Oh and I'm NOT ANONYMOUS_I'm Cherylynn and my prayers and respect go with the single-parent families I'm talking about. You know who you are: :)
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Anonymous, at 2:27 PM
Cherylynn,
It is a given that many good, well-adjusted people grow up in single parent families, just as many social deviants grow up in two-parent households. As mentioned in the article, tha majority of the remainder of people engaged in the activities discussed had bad relationships with their fathers, but facts are facts. Children of single parent families grow up, on the average, less well adjusted than children of two parent families.
Now, about this guy who corrupted your daughter, what his relationship with his father? My guess is either he grew up in a single parent family, or his father was either distant or abusive, and the odds are that I am right.
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Daniel Levesque, at 5:55 PM
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